How to play

Getting the most out of it

Find a quiet moment when you won’t be interrupted. Put the phones away, except the one you play on.

Start with the light cards and move to the deeper ones when you feel like it. The first few questions often feel a little awkward. That’s normal.

Everyone answers. Whoever reads the card answers first, then take turns reading.

Ask a follow-up. The best question is often the second one: “How did that feel?” or “Tell me more.” Listen to understand, not to reply.

You can always skip a card or take a new one. Nobody has to explain why.

Finish with a light or happy card, and thank each other for the conversation.

When a talk gets hard

Sometimes a question hits a sore spot. That doesn’t mean something is wrong. A few things help:

• Slow down and listen. You don’t have to fix anything right now.
• Say what you feel and need, instead of what the other person always does.
• Take a break if anyone feels overwhelmed, and agree on when to pick it up again.

A conversation game, not therapy

Goodtalk can make it easier to talk, but it doesn’t replace help from a professional. If something weighs on you, or the same fights keep coming back, talk to a doctor or a counselor.

If you’re thinking about suicide, or someone you know is in danger, contact your local emergency number right away. You can find a free, confidential helpline in your country at findahelpline.com.

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