First Date Questions

A first date is easier when you have a few good questions to lean on. These are curious, light and honest, so you get past the weather and the job title quickly and on to what's actually interesting.

Good for: First and second dates, and anyone getting to know someone new.

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Tips for playing

Stick to the light cards at the start.
Answer the questions yourself too, so it doesn't feel like a job interview.
Follow up on whatever makes the other person light up.

Depth: lightLight questions

Easy to start with. Good for warming up.

What were you doing right before we met today?
What does your perfect Sunday look like?
Coffee or tea, and how do you take it?
What's the last book, show or podcast you couldn't put down?
What spot in your city should everyone see at least once?
Do you plan trips down to the last detail, or take them as they come?
What's your favorite dish to cook for other people?
What sound or smell instantly puts you in a good mood?
What was your first job?
Which place you've traveled to surprised you the most?
What are you a total nerd about?
Which concert do you still talk about?
Morning person or night owl?
What can you always be talked into?
What have you learned recently that you were glad to find out?
Do you have a pet, or which animal would you get?
Which movie have you watched the most times?
What's the best gift you've ever given someone?
City or countryside, and why?
What's a small thing that can make your day?
If you got tomorrow off, what would you do?
What do you most like to do on a rainy day?
What talent do you wish you had?
What's the strangest job you could picture yourself doing?
What do you always order when you eat out?
Which decade would you most like to have been young in?
What's your favorite season, and what do you only do then?
What's the last thing that made you laugh out loud?
Are you a sore loser at board games?
Where have you always wanted to go but never made it?
What do you collect, or what did you collect as a kid?
What's your go-to party trick?
What were you obsessed with as a teenager?
What are you good at that nobody would guess?
What's your favorite Sunday ritual?
Which app do you use most on your phone?
Which show do you put on when you need comfort?
Which city, apart from your own, do you know best?
What's your favorite movie theater snack?
Where would you take a tourist in your city?
What have you been curious about lately that you still haven't figured out?
What's the best question anyone has asked you on a date?
What made you say yes to meeting today?
What do you laugh at that other people don't always get?
What did you notice first about me, online or in person?
What are you into right now that you could talk about for hours?
What topic can you never resist reading about when you come across it?
What little moment from this week do you want to tell me about?
What small thing were you looking forward to today?
Who's the funniest person you know, and what makes them so funny?
What question do you always get asked, and what do you wish people asked instead?
What's the best recommendation you've gotten from a stranger?
What everyday thing are you surprisingly picky about?
What could you talk about for five minutes with no preparation?
What story do you tell so often that your friends almost know it by heart?
What's the best thing that's happened to you by chance?
Which day went completely differently than planned but turned out well?

Depth: mediumA bit more personal

For when the conversation is flowing.

What takes up most of your time right now?
What does a good, normal day look like for you?
Who in your family are you closest to?
What makes you nervous that other people find easy?
What have you done that you're proud of but rarely mention?
How do you like to spend your evenings after work?
What was the best thing about the place you grew up?
What makes you lose track of time?
Who taught you the most about being a decent person?
When did you last do something for the first time?
What matters most to you in a friendship?
What do you do to recharge?
What would your friends say is your best quality?
What have you changed your mind about in the last few years?
What dream are you working on making real?
How has your work or school changed you?
What do you appreciate most in other people?
Which year of your life has meant the most so far?
Which tradition from your childhood do you want to keep alive?
What's the bravest thing you've done in the past year?
What are you looking forward to this year?
What have you gotten better at with age?
What are you like when you're hungry or tired?
What do you do when you can't sleep?
What advice would you give yourself five years ago?
What do you love about where you live now?
What can't you stop spending money on?
Who was your hero when you were ten?
How would your best friend describe you?
What would you like to learn more about?
How do you unwind after a stressful day?
What are you proud of having learned recently?
Who has inspired you the most?
What do you look for in someone you'll spend a lot of time with?
What have you been praised for that surprised you?
What have you started to like that you used to dislike?
What are you practicing these days, even if nobody sees it?
Who taught you something about being a good friend, and what was it?
What's the best part of what you do every day that outsiders don't see?
What does a really good night with your friends look like?
What's a question you'd like to ask me but haven't yet?
Which city or country are you curious about, and what draws you there?
What was hard to learn that you're glad you didn't give up on?
What's a rule you try to live by, even in small things?
When were you last completely absorbed in a conversation, and what was it about?
How has your sense of humor changed since you were younger?

Depth: deepDeep questions

Take your time. These are the ones people remember.

What does home mean to you?
What are you grateful for right now?
Where do you feel most at home when you're not at home?
What has a hard time in your life taught you about yourself?
What did a past relationship teach you that you're taking with you?
What do you hope your life looks like in ten years?
What moves you?
Who do you miss?
What do people often misunderstand about you?
What have you done that surprised your parents?
What decision changed the direction of your life?
What do you need to feel safe with another person?
What are you still learning about yourself?
When did you last change your mind about someone?
What's the best apology you've ever received?
What does kindness look like to you, day to day?
What do you think you'll remember about today?
What makes you curious about another person?
What did your parents pass on to you that you're glad about?
What's the nicest thing a stranger has done for you?
What would you like more of in your life?
What has taught you the most about yourself?
What matters to you in a relationship?
What have you changed in your life that you're happy about?
What do you hope the next few years bring?
Which friend knows you best, and what do they know about you that most people don't?
When did you last feel that someone really listened to you?

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