Questions for Couples
After a while together, most conversations end up being about errands, work and who's doing pickup. These questions make room for the things you rarely say, and for the good stories you've forgotten to tell each other.
Good for: Partners and spouses, from the first year together to the thirtieth.
Play 80 cardsTips for playing
- Take turns drawing a card, and let the other person answer first.
- Put your phones away and give each question some time.
- Skip any card that doesn't feel right tonight.
Depth: lightLight questions
Easy to start with. Good for warming up.
- What's the first thing you noticed about me?
- What's your favorite thing about us?
- What's your favorite memory of the two of us?
- What's the funniest thing we've ever done together?
- What do you admire most about me?
- What's something I do that makes you smile?
- What was your first thought after our first kiss?
- Which song best describes our relationship?
- What's the most romantic gesture you can imagine?
- What little thing do I do that you love?
- Which place has a special meaning for us?
- How should we celebrate us more often?
- What's our funniest inside joke?
- What's the best compliment I've ever given you?
- Which movie or show reminds you of us?
- What's your favorite way to spend time with me?
- Which of my habits have you grown fond of?
- Which of my crazy ideas are you glad we went through with?
- What should we cook together the next time we have a whole Sunday free?
- What would we be called if we were a band?
- Which photo of us would you hang in the living room?
- What's the best part of waking up next to me?
- What sound reminds you of us?
- Which city should we see together before we get old?
- What did you think when I first messaged you?
- What little tradition of ours would you never give up?
- Which of us is better at sleeping in, and which at getting up early?
- What's the funniest thing I've said while half asleep?
Depth: mediumA bit more personal
For when the conversation is flowing.
- When did you last feel truly loved by me?
- Is there something you wish we did together more often?
- What's something you dream of us doing together?
- How would you describe our relationship to a stranger?
- When did you know you wanted to be with me?
- What's the most important value we share?
- What are you most grateful for in our relationship?
- What's something new you'd like to try with me?
- What has surprised you most about being with me?
- When do you feel like we make a great team?
- What's something we do better together than apart?
- What's our biggest strength as a couple?
- What would you change about our day-to-day life?
- What's something I've done that you'll never forget?
- What makes you feel safe in our relationship?
- When have you been proudest of me?
- How do we keep the friendship alive in our relationship?
- When did I last surprise you in a good way?
- What have you learned from my family?
- Which decision we made together are you happiest about now?
- What do I do when I think you're not looking?
- How can you tell I've had a bad day?
- What do you wish we spent more money on, and what less?
- What advice about love would you give your younger self?
- Which of your friends understands us best as a couple?
- What's the hardest part about living with me?
- When do we laugh the most together?
Depth: deepDeep questions
Take your time. These are the ones people remember.
- What's the hardest thing we've gotten through together?
- How could I do a better job of showing you I love you?
- When do you feel most connected to me?
- What do you wish I knew about you?
- What have I taught you about life?
- What kind of challenge could make our relationship stronger?
- What does our dream life look like ten years from now?
- What's the best way for us to handle disagreements?
- What are you most afraid could threaten our relationship?
- What would you say was a turning point in our relationship?
- How can I best support you when things are hard?
- What have you learned about yourself through our relationship?
- How could we get better at talking to each other?
- What do you hope we're still doing together in 50 years?
- What have I helped you overcome?
- What's something we should talk about more?
- If we each wrote a promise to the other, what would yours say?
- What are you afraid I don't know about you?
- When have you felt lonely even though we were together?
- What have you forgiven me for without ever saying it out loud?
- What does it take for you to feel seen by me?
- What part of yourself did you keep hidden from me at first?
- How would you like us to talk when things get hard?
- What do you hope people say about us when we're old?
- If our relationship were a book, which chapter would we be in now?
80 cards in this deck.