Deep Questions

Some conversations stay with you for years. These questions are about what matters most: what makes us happy, what we're afraid of and what we hope for.

Good for: Close friends and couples who have the time and calm for a long talk.

Play 80 cards

Tips for playing

Take one question at a time, and let the silence be.
Answer honestly rather than cleverly.
It's fine to come back to a card another day.

Depth: lightLight questions

Easy to start with. Good for warming up.

What makes you happy on a completely ordinary day?
Who's the last person who made you smile just thinking about them?
What are you good at that few people know about?
Which place helps you calm down?
What has someone said about you that stuck, for better or worse?
What do you enjoy most about being alone?
When did you last feel proud?
What gives you energy when you're tired?
What sound or smell calms you down?
What has surprised you about yourself lately?
Who would you like to say thank you to today?
What has made you happy this week?

Depth: mediumA bit more personal

For when the conversation is flowing.

Do you believe in fate, or is it all chance?
What makes you truly happy?
When did you last feel completely at peace?
What does success mean to you?
What's your biggest strength, and your biggest weakness?
What keeps you up at night?
When did you last feel real gratitude?
If you could know the answer to one question about the universe, what would it be?
What does freedom mean to you?
What's the greatest gift you've been given that wasn't a thing?
When do you feel most alive?
What's a small thing that makes you happy every single time?
When did you last choose the hard thing over the easy one?
What's something you need to hear more often?
What do you long for?
What are you still searching for answers to?
What gives you hope?
What's the most important lesson you're still learning?
What are you most self-critical about?
When did you last stand up for yourself, and how did it go?
What role do you play in your friendships?
What do you turn to when you need to escape everyday life?
Which opinion have you let go of, and why?
What makes you angry that others think is no big deal?
When do you feel like you're playing a part?
What do you miss from a time that won't come back?
Which feeling do you rarely let others see?
What do people believe about you that isn't true?

Depth: deepDeep questions

Take your time. These are the ones people remember.

What's the meaning of life, to you?
What are you most afraid of in life?
What would you do if you only had one year left?
What does love mean to you?
What do you want to be remembered for?
What have you learned about yourself this past year?
What would you say to your 80-year-old self?
When do you feel most like yourself?
What's a belief you've changed?
What gives your life direction?
What's the hardest truth you've had to accept?
What makes a life well lived?
What's the most important thing you've learned about people?
What do you think happens after we die?
What are you afraid of missing out on in life?
Who can you cry in front of?
What's something you've forgiven yourself for?
What does it mean to be a good person?
What's the biggest lesson love has taught you?
What's something you struggle with that others don't know about?
What's your biggest doubt about yourself?
What is your inner critic hardest on you about?
When did you last do something that felt meaningful?
What's the most important relationship in your life, and why?
What's something you've never told anyone?
Who do you know who lives a life you admire, and why?
What's the hardest conversation you've ever had?
What's something about life you've started to accept?
What's the most important decision you still have to make?
What are you afraid of losing?
Who or what do you still need to forgive?
If you could give the world one piece of advice, what would it be?
What have you never told anyone but wish you could?
When have you felt most alone in the world?
What's the hardest thing you've had to forgive yourself for?
Which fear drives more of your choices than you'd like?
What do you hold back from because you're afraid of what others will say?
When were you last completely honest with yourself?
What do you wish someone had asked you when you were going through a hard time?
Which question are you afraid to answer honestly?

80 cards in this deck.