Gratitude Questions
It's easy to take the people closest to you for granted. These cards are about the things people do for each other and the people who have made a difference. A thank-you said out loud often means more than you'd think, and in a relationship it's usually the small, everyday ones that count.
Good for: Couples, families and friends, and a good way to end a long conversation.
Play 70 cardsTips for playing
- If the person you're thanking is at the table, say it straight to them.
- Be specific: say what they did and what it meant to you.
- Draw a Gratitude card at the end, after you've talked about something hard.
Depth: lightLight questions
Easy to start with. Good for warming up.
- What did I do this week that made your day a little easier?
- What small thing at home are you glad someone takes care of?
- What have you eaten lately that you're grateful someone made?
- What message have you gotten lately that made you happy?
- Who made you laugh today?
- What do you love about the place where you live?
- Which friend would you text a thank-you to right now, and what for?
- What's the best thing anyone has ever lent you?
- Which teacher or coach are you still grateful for?
- What has a stranger done for you that you still remember?
- Which everyday thing would you miss most if it disappeared tomorrow?
- Who in your family are you glad to have close by?
- What has your body done for you today?
- Which habit of someone at this table do you appreciate?
- Which gift has meant the most to you, even though it didn't cost much?
- What made your morning good today?
- Who taught you something useful that you use every week?
- Which coworker or classmate makes the day better, and how?
- What have you seen in nature lately that made you happy?
- What meal has someone made for you that you still think about?
- What are you glad you don't have to worry about right now?
- Who would you give flowers to today if you could?
- Which song are you grateful someone showed you?
- What has a neighbor done that you appreciated?
- Which moment from yesterday would you like to live again?
- Who has helped you move, carry or build something?
- What have you been given that you would happily have paid for?
- What are you grateful for at this table tonight?
Depth: mediumA bit more personal
For when the conversation is flowing.
- What do you like most about me, and when did you last see it?
- Who should have gotten a proper thank-you from you long ago, and what did they do?
- When has someone believed in you before you believed in yourself?
- What has someone taught you about being a good friend?
- What advice did you once get that you only came to appreciate later?
- Who stood by you during a hard time?
- What do you love about the way your family celebrates things?
- What are you grateful for in your work or school, even when it's hard?
- Who has made you braver?
- What have I done lately that you never got around to thanking me for?
- Who do you wish knew how much they've meant to you?
- Which mistake are you glad you made?
- Who has forgiven you for something, and what did it mean to you?
- What's good about your life right now that you easily forget to notice?
- Which tradition from your childhood are you glad someone kept alive?
- Who showed you how to be a good grown-up?
- What has a hard time taught you to appreciate?
- Who is your oldest friend, and what do you treasure most about your friendship?
- When did someone say something kind about you that you still remember word for word?
- Who could you write a thank-you letter to tonight?
- What have your parents given you that money can't buy?
- Which of the things I do would you miss if I stopped?
- Who taught you to speak up for yourself?
- Which little habit of your partner, a friend or a parent makes you happy every time?
- What has someone quietly done for you that you only found out about later?
Depth: deepDeep questions
Take your time. These are the ones people remember.
- What have I given you that you only understood the value of later?
- What hard experience are you oddly grateful for now?
- Who has done the most to make you who you are?
- What would you like to thank someone for who is no longer alive?
- When have you felt luckiest in your life?
- What are you grateful for about yourself that you rarely say out loud?
- Who loved you in a way you didn't understand at the time?
- What do you hope people will thank you for one day?
- Which choice you made long ago are you deeply grateful for today?
- When has someone been there for you without you having to ask?
- What has our relationship given you that you didn't have before?
- Which part of your story have you come to be glad about, even though it hurt?
- Who gave you a chance you never expected to get?
- What would you thank your younger self for?
- Who has taught you the most about love, and how?
- What in your life would you miss most if everything suddenly changed?
- Which gift in your life have you only recently noticed?
70 cards in this deck.