Goodtalk
Goodtalk

Intimate Questions to Ask Your Partner

Intimacy is about more than the physical. These questions help you talk about what you need and what makes you feel close to each other.

Good for: Couples who want to talk more openly about romance and closeness.

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Tips for playing

  • Pick a calm moment when you won't be interrupted.
  • Listen without getting defensive.
  • It's always okay to pass.

Depth: lightLight questions

Easy to start with. Good for warming up.

  1. What makes you feel most attractive?
  2. What's the most romantic thing I've ever done?
  3. What's your love language?
  4. What's your idea of a perfect romantic evening?
  5. Which song should play when we dance alone in the living room?
  6. What makes me irresistible to you?
  7. What's your favorite way to flirt?
  8. What's the best morning we've ever had together?
  9. How do you like to be woken up?
  10. What's one thing you love about my body?
  11. What romantic surprise do you dream about?
  12. What's something simple I can do to show my love?
  13. What small gesture means a lot to you?
  14. Which of my hands do you prefer to hold?
  15. How do you like to fall asleep when we're together?
  16. Which piece of my clothing do you like borrowing most?
  17. What's the best hug I've ever given you?
  18. Where's your favorite spot on the couch when we watch a movie?
  19. What scent reminds you of me?
  20. What do I do that makes you feel at home?
  21. Which pet name do you most like me calling you?
  22. What does your favorite morning with me look like?
  23. When did I last give you butterflies?
  24. What's the best place we've ever kissed?
  25. What song would you dance to with me in the kitchen?

Depth: mediumA bit more personal

For when the conversation is flowing.

  1. When do you feel closest to me?
  2. What does physical closeness mean to you?
  3. What helps you feel secure with me?
  4. What kind of touch means the most to you?
  5. How could I better show you that I want you?
  6. What's the most intimate moment we've shared that had nothing to do with sex?
  7. When do you feel most physically connected to me?
  8. What makes you nervous when it comes to intimacy?
  9. What's the most intimate compliment I've given you?
  10. What's the most passionate moment we've had?
  11. What everyday thing do I do that you love to watch?
  12. When do you feel like we're truly on the same wavelength?
  13. What romantic thing from our early days do you miss?
  14. What's something I do that turns you on?
  15. How can we make more time for closeness?
  16. When do you feel most relaxed with me?
  17. What makes your heart beat faster when we're together?
  18. Which romantic movie moment would you love to live out?
  19. Where do you most like to be touched?
  20. When do you feel closest to me without saying a word?
  21. What do you find hard to ask me for?
  22. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad?
  23. What does it mean to you when I touch you in passing?
  24. When do you most need me to be patient?
  25. What do you wish I asked you about more often?
  26. How do you show love without saying it?
  27. When do you find me most attractive in everyday life?
  28. What makes you feel safe enough to be completely yourself?
  29. What's the sweetest thing I've ever said to you?

Depth: deepDeep questions

Take your time. These are the ones people remember.

  1. Is there a fantasy you'd like to share with me?
  2. How can we keep the spark alive?
  3. What would you like us to explore more of together?
  4. What does intimacy mean to you?
  5. When do you feel most vulnerable?
  6. What does trust mean to you in a relationship?
  7. What holds you back from being completely open?
  8. What's something you've always wanted to try but never mentioned?
  9. What's the most vulnerable thing you've shared with me?
  10. How can you tell I really see you?
  11. What's a boundary you'll never cross?
  12. What do you wish I knew about your needs?
  13. What would make our intimate life even better?
  14. What would it take for you to let me see when you feel insecure?
  15. What's something intimate we've never talked about?
  16. When do you feel completely loved by me?
  17. What do you wish we talked about more openly?
  18. What's your deepest fear about our intimacy?
  19. What are you afraid of losing in our relationship?
  20. When did you last cry in front of me, and how did it feel?
  21. What have you never dared to tell me about your past?
  22. How can I be there for you when you're being hard on yourself?
  23. What should I know about your old wounds so I can be gentle with them?
  24. When have you felt rejected by me without me knowing?
  25. What does it mean to you to trust another person completely?
  26. What's the hardest thing for you to accept from me?

80 cards in this deck.