Goodtalk
Goodtalk

New Things to Try as a Couple

After a few years you know the route, the menu and each other's jokes. These cards are about the things you haven't tried yet, and about making everyday life a little less predictable.

Good for: Couples in long relationships and friends who want to come up with something new.

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Tips for playing

  • Choose one idea from the evening and put a date on it.
  • Small adventures count: a new street, a new dish, a new bus route.
  • Once you've tried it, talk about how it felt to be a beginner.

Depth: lightLight questions

Easy to start with. Good for warming up.

  1. What has neither of us tried that we could do next weekend?
  2. Where in our own country should we go that we haven't been to together?
  3. Which dish from another country should we cook together for the first time?
  4. Which sport could we try out one afternoon?
  5. Which concert or show would you go to if I bought tickets for tonight?
  6. What could we do on a Tuesday that we usually only do on vacation?
  7. Which museum have you never been to but want to visit?
  8. What would you try if we had a whole day with no phones?
  9. Which unfamiliar path or street nearby should we explore?
  10. Which evening class would you like to take with me?
  11. What could we build or make together in the yard or on the balcony?
  12. Which game have we never played but should learn?
  13. What would you like to taste that you've never dared to?
  14. Which sunrise should we get up early for?
  15. Where could we go one Saturday with no plan?
  16. Which island have you always wanted to visit?
  17. What could we do on a rainy day that we've never done before?
  18. Which local festival or market have we never been to?
  19. Which instrument would you like to try playing?
  20. What would you do for a whole day in a city where nobody knows us?
  21. Where have we never spent the night: a tent, a cabin, a boat or something else entirely?
  22. What should we try making from scratch that we usually buy?
  23. Which dance would you like to learn?
  24. How could we make a totally ordinary evening a little offbeat, in a good way?
  25. Which animal have you never seen in real life but would love to?
  26. Which book should we read at the same time and talk about afterward?
  27. What would you try if we swapped hobbies for a week?
  28. What hike or bike ride should we try?

Depth: mediumA bit more personal

For when the conversation is flowing.

  1. Which skill would you like to learn together with me?
  2. When did you last feel really alive with me?
  3. What do you want to try but keep holding back from?
  4. Which of your old dreams could we turn into a plan this year?
  5. What would you do if you knew you couldn't embarrass yourself?
  6. What new habit would make our everyday life more exciting?
  7. Where in the world would you like to feel like a complete stranger?
  8. Which of our firsts together do you remember best?
  9. Which part of our routine has gotten too comfortable?
  10. What could we learn from someone who lives completely differently from us?
  11. What kind of volunteer work would you like to try?
  12. What would you like to be able to do in five years that you can't do today?
  13. What adventure would you go on if you had a month off?
  14. What are you curious about these days?
  15. What challenge could we give each other this month?
  16. What would you try if we lived in another country for six months?
  17. What new side of me would you like to see more of?
  18. What's the bravest thing you want to do this year?
  19. Which old hobby would you like to pick up again?
  20. What have you always believed you couldn't do that you'd like to try anyway?
  21. What subject would you love to get really good at?
  22. How could we go on vacation in a completely new way?
  23. What would we do differently if we met for the first time today?
  24. What experience do you want to share with me before we get old?
  25. What has given you butterflies lately, in a good way?

Depth: deepDeep questions

Take your time. These are the ones people remember.

  1. What side of life would you like to explore that I don't know very well?
  2. How have you changed since we met, and what do you want to explore now?
  3. What are you afraid we'll miss out on if we get too stuck in our ways?
  4. When has a new experience changed how you see yourself?
  5. What would a brave life mean to you right now?
  6. What part of you haven't you made room for in a long time?
  7. What have you learned about yourself by trying something you were bad at?
  8. How can we keep surprising each other after many years?
  9. What big plan would you start if you knew I'd back you all the way?
  10. What would you do with your life if you got an extra day off every week?
  11. When have you felt most free?
  12. What keeps you holding on to the familiar, even when you long for something new?
  13. What adventure would you regret never trying?
  14. What does it mean to you that we grow together and not just side by side?
  15. Who do you hope we'll be in ten years?
  16. What would you like to learn from me, and what would you like to teach me?
  17. When were we last beginners together, and how did it feel?

70 cards in this deck.