Self-Reflection Questions

Some questions are best asked of yourself. These cards are about habits, values and what gives you energy, and they work just as well in a journal as in an honest talk with someone you trust.

Good for: You, your journal or a heart-to-heart with someone close.

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Tips for playing

Write your answer down before you think too hard about it.
Take one question a day.
Come back to the same questions in six months.

Depth: lightLight questions

Easy to start with. Good for warming up.

What was the best moment of your day?
What song matches your mood right now?
What have you been looking forward to this week?
When did you last laugh so hard you cried?
What are three things you're good at?
What do you want to do more of?
What helps you feel calm?
Which place helps you relax?
What's your best habit?
What have you learned this month?
What would you do with an extra hour every day?
What gives you energy, and what drains it?
What small thing would make tomorrow better?
What were you into at 12, and is it still part of you?
Who did you feel like calling today?
What's the last thing you bought that made you really happy?
Which three words describe you right now?
What's your favorite spot in your home?
When does time fly for you?
What have you been putting off for a while?
What would you do with a whole day just for yourself?
What's working well in your life right now?
What have you said yes to lately that you're glad about?
What have you said no to lately that you're glad about?
Who made your week better?
What smell, taste or sound feels like safety to you?
Which book, movie or conversation has sparked something in you lately?
What makes you feel fresh and ready to go?
What's a small win from this week?
What are you curious about right now?
What would you do with more peace and quiet?
What's the first thing you do when you're having a bad day?
Which compliment do you still remember?
What would you write on a note to yourself for tomorrow morning?
What have you enjoyed this week?
Which room in your home do you feel most at ease in?
What do you do when you need to think?
Which small habit makes your days better?
What do you feel like learning right now?
What feeling has been strongest today?

Depth: mediumA bit more personal

For when the conversation is flowing.

What do you spend the most time worrying about?
What do you do when you're sad, and does it help?
Who do you compare yourself to the most?
What do you say yes to even though you'd rather say no?
When do you feel most sure of yourself?
What do you avoid, and why?
Which feeling do you find hard to show?
What have you changed your mind about this past year?
Which habit do you want to break, and what's in the way?
What are you better at now than five years ago?
When were you last unfair to someone?
What annoys you in others that you also do yourself?
What would the people closest to you say you should take better care of?
What have you been praised for that you find hard to believe?
Who in your life gives you the most energy?
Who in your life drains the most energy, and what do you do about it?
Is what you call laziness actually tiredness?
When were you last really brave?
What advice do you give others that you should follow yourself?
What do you do after you've made a mistake?
How do you talk to yourself when things go badly?
What are you holding on to that you might need to let go of?
What are you still angry about?
What do you need to hear from other people?
What do you need to hear from yourself?
What does it take for you to feel good?
What do you prioritize when you're short on time?
What part of your daily routine would you change if you dared?
Who haven't you properly thanked?
What do you know you need to do but keep putting off?
When did you last say no and feel glad about it afterward?
When do you trust your gut most?
What takes more energy than it gives?
Which side of yourself do you rarely show?
What do you keep putting off, even though you know it would do you good?

Depth: deepDeep questions

Take your time. These are the ones people remember.

What are your three most important values, and do you live by them?
What would you do differently if no one were judging you?
When did you last feel you were exactly where you belonged?
What are you afraid others will find out about you?
What story do you tell about yourself that might not be true anymore?
What have you forgiven, and what do you still need to forgive?
What has life given you that you never asked for?
What would you miss most if it disappeared tomorrow?
Who are you when no one is watching?
What are you proud of in the way you got through something hard?
What has made you who you are today?
Which side of yourself have you kept hidden since you were a kid?
What have you given up that you still miss?
When did you last cry, and what was it about?
What does being good enough mean to you?
Which decision are you waiting to make?
What gives your life meaning on a completely ordinary Tuesday?
What do you hope people say about you when you're not in the room?
Which relationship in your life needs more care?
What do you need less of?
What do you want to remind yourself of the next time things get hard?
What would the wisest version of you say to you today?
What are you afraid to find out about yourself?
Which belief about yourself did you inherit from others?
What would you do if you fully trusted yourself?

100 cards in this deck.